5 Things You Must Do If You HaveUnprotected Sex

5 Things You Must Do If You Have Unprotected $ex

Unprotected lovemaking put lovers at health risks due to the prevalence of diseases as a result of infidelity among partners most times.

During the heat of s*xual ecstasy, things can really go fast from foreplay to s*x and partners may not even remember to use condoms.

Unprotected s*x is s*xual intercourse without the use of a barrier method of contraception. This can be either the male or the female condom. Unprotected s*xual intercourse increases the risk of contacting/ transmitting HIV, STD and unwanted pregnancy.

I have seen a lot of people overwhelmed with anxiety after having unprotected sexual intercourse with some indulging in acts that does not only sound ridiculous but also increases their chance of contacting STD or even affecting their health adversely. Douching is one of such. Generally, women are discouraged from douching because it alters the normal bacteria flora of the v*gina which keeps it healthy and free from invading pathogens.

If you douche after s*x, it increases the chance of contacting STD and it doesn’t prevent pregnancy and HIV infection. Myths like ingestion of herbal medicines, insertion of caustic soda, ingesting OTCs like ampicillin and aspirin have not been proven scientifically to be effective in preventing unwanted pregnancies and infection with STD. In this article, we will review on things you must do if you have unprotected s*x.

1. Take Emergency contraceptive pills

This is one of the surest ways of preventing unwanted pregnancy after having unprotected sexual intercourse. You will have to take emergency contraceptives in form of emergency contraceptives pills. Emergency contraceptive pills also referred to as morning after pills are is used to prevent pregnancy. There can be obtained with a doctor’s prescription or as an over the counter drug (OTC) in drug stores. A commonly used form of EC is Postinor 2 which is taken within 72 hours after having unprotected sexual intercourse. It contains Levonorgestrel which is a synthetic form of a female reproductive hormone that prevents implantation hence pregnancy doesn’t occur.

2.Ask for an Intra-Uterine Device (IUD)

If after 72 hours, then you must contact your health care provider for an emergency IUD. IUD is tiny rod-like devices inserted into the uterus (womb) by your doctor. There distort cervical mucus and prevents the implantation of the egg. If inserted properly and within 5 days, it is highly effective with an efficacy rate of about 98%. It is important to note that EC and IUD don’t give any protection nor prevent STD and HIV infection.

3. Test for STD and HIV

Fears of infection with STD or the dreaded killer disease HIV is heightened after unprotected sexual intercourse. It is mandatory that you test to screen for STD and HIV. If possible, such test should be conducted with your s*xual partner. STD to be tested for includes Hepatitis B and C, gonorrhea, syphilis and chlamydia. This can be carried out with blood samples or via a vaginal/ penile swab. However, results gotten from an early test are inconclusive hence test must be repeated after 6 months for cases of HIV and Hepatitis. Testing after having unprotected s*xual intercourse allays fear/ anxiety and increases the chance of early diagnosis, prevention and treatment of sexually transmitted disease.

4. Post Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP)

PEP is essential after a high risk unprotected sexual intercourse. This includes cases of rape by an unknown assailant, s*xual intercourse with an individual living with HIV or unprotected sexual intercourse with a partner with known multiple s*xual partners. You must visit a health facility that provides such services and after counseling and series of test, you will be commenced on PEP for a duration of one month. The drugs have been noted to be 99% effective in preventing HIV if commenced within 72 hours. PEP provides protection against HIV but not to other STD. However, you will have to do another HIV test after 6 months to be declared free from the deadly disease.

5. Keep calm and watch for symptoms

Unprotected s*x may happen unexpectedly or as a result of carelessness from both partners. Once it has occurred, there is little of no need for panic. You should keep calm and watch out for symptoms after undergoing the initial screening test for STD and HIV. Symptoms make take 2 weeks or more to manifest. If after unprotected s*x, you begin to experience v*ginal itching, v*ginal or penile discharge, severe burning pain on urinating, sores or ulcers around your external genitals then it is advisable that you consult your doctor for further evaluation and treatment.

Do you know the right way to pair your tie and pocket square?

The right way to pair your tie and pocket square

It is becoming increasingly popular among guys these days to wear a suit with a tie and a pocket square or just a pocket square with the suit. I must say that indeed it is very becoming and makes many a guy look suave and up to standard. So guys I salute you all!!!! No. I double salute you all!!! So go ahead, feel good, and feel cool because everybody knows who the boss is! 

Now  you are relishing and in  the aura that comes with knowing you look good and that most of the chicks around are casting you nice and hot glances. But  are you really sure that you have matched your pocket square and your tie the right way it should be done? just asking guys. The thing is, you really need to ensure that those hot looks the ladies are throwing at you stems from the fact that you have got your pocket square and tie act well put together and not that you have got the whole tie and pocket square all wrongly put together. Looks, they say, can be pretty deceptive right?

Now to make sure you really are on top of your game, I have put together this article on the right way to combine your tie and pocket square.

You can call it the six commandments of pocket squares and ties…. Here we go.

Pocket Squares Rule 1

Never ever match your pocket squares to your tie. We are talking same colour and same print. It is a capital crime! I’m yet to ascertain if there is jail time attached to  this crime. It means just don’t go matching ties and squares. Your squares should complement the tie and should blend with the colour of the suit  you are wearing. So let’s say you are wearing a blue and yellow coloured tie, you can choose to go for a plain coloured pocket square in either a solid blue or solid yellow.

Better still if you have a patterned square featuring the two colours you could choose to use them. The key to pulling of perfect combo lies in keeping it  classy and trendy. Definitely not a two way street. Take a look at the picture.

Pocket Squares look better when they complement or blend

Rule 2

Be versatile with your folds. You cannot learn all the different types of folds out there but at least you can master two or three types of fold which can come in useful depending on the occasion you will be present at. So have the flexibility of knowing which particular fold will create the maximum impact for your image in a particular setting. Simpler and structured folds makes for a conservative look and the fluid and less structured folds are casual oriented and gives you a relaxed appearance.

- Souce: The Mirror newspaper

Scientists reveal the real reason we close our eyes when we kiss

Scientists reveal the real reason we close our eyes when we kiss

 

The real reason people close their eyes when they kiss is because the brain can't deal with more than two things at once. 

That is the finding of academics who have explored one of the great mysteries of the human psyche. 

When people pucker up the brain finds it difficult to process the sensation if cognitive power is also being used to analyse what we see, said psychologists from Royal Holloway, University of London.

'Tactile awareness depends on the level of perceptual load in a concurrent visual task,' said Polly Dalton and Sandra Murphy, from the university, in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Human Perception and Performance.

The cognitive psychologists reached their conclusion without studying people actually kissing.

Instead people were asked do visual tests while their response to something touching their hands was measured. 

The academics found that the visual field overrides tactile responses - meaning people would struggle to continue kissing if what they were looking at became more difficult to process. 

Dr Dalton told The Sunday Times: 'If we are focusing strongly on a visual task, this will reduce our awareness of stimuli in other senses. 

'It is important for designers to be aware of these effects, because auditory and tactile alerts are often used in situations of high visual demand, such as driving a car or flying an aircraft.'

The findings could also explain why people often shut their eyes whilst reading braille or when dancing. 

Dr Dalton added: 'These results could explain why we close our eyes when we want to focus attention on another sense. Shutting out the visual input leaves more mental resources to focus on other aspects of our experience.'

Credit: Daily Mail

Drawing the line between rape and a one-night-stand!

Drawing the line between rape and a one-night-stand!

WHAT sort of buzz, drives a man to one-night-stand, relationships? Lola had accompanied her friend to her ex-husband’s birthday party, hoping to have the good time she promised. “He has birthday bashes annually”, said Lola, “and my friend has stayed friends with her ex because he was a good provider even when their marriage wasn’t really working.

“He is a real clown, more a Jack-the-dad than the successful man he’s turned out to be. The party, apart from its not being a landmark one, was elaborate —good food, good booze and a good crowd. The music was a jazzy mix. Later in the evening, I stood outside the busy toilet when he said I could use the one in his bedroom. I wasn’t there one minute, when he burst in and was all over me. I was shocked. He mumbled that he’d been watching me all evening; that he’d found me attractive for ages, and all those mushy things men say when they are in heat. I was shocked and terribly embarrassed. I had never given him the impression I fancied him.

“I tried to beat him off but he was too strong. Unfortunately, my knickers were already round my ankles and he raped me there and then. He was out of the toilet before I knew what had happened! I felt so used and humiliated and when I got back to the party, I thought every-one would know what had happened to me. But they all just carried on enjoying themselves. My rapist didn’t as much as look my way and when we left, he even saw us off telling my friend what a beautiful lady I was. I felt so humiliated, I wanted to blurt out what happened but who would believe me?”

Kayode prided himself on being a good one-night-stand man. “I simply love the challenge of bedding a girl the first time I met her, if I find her attractive, that is”, he bragged. “The moment I clamp my eyes on a victim, the possibilities start running through my mind. Will we be sexually compatible? Will I come too quickly or won’t I be able to come at all?” One night stands have a habit of cropping up, if not often, then once in a while, especially nights when there is too much flirting and drinking at parties, giving you too much build-up opportunity. Then you kid yourself that the chemistry between you and your victim is right and then, wham!

“Of course, I’ve burnt my fingers from time to time. I’ve discovered, for instance, that my prowess between the sheets—if you call it that—has become topic for conversation at some female get together during the course of their now frequent drinking chin-wags. Women, like men, now freely discuss their sexual escapades, and I’ve listened to a few deride the techniques of some really influential men. Makes your flesh crawl at times!

‘They are certainly more brazen than men especially when they’ve had a few drinks. So, it’s not only men that are the predators. Some women offer you sex on the platter when it is the furtherest thing from your mind!”

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ADULTS ONLY

Just what is it that makes a guy good in bed? Physical fitness? Dirty talk? These 12 tips to please a woman in bed are sure to keep her totally satisfied!

Often, guys think that concentrating on foreplay is a waste of time. Why bother when you can get to the good stuff right away, right?
Well, the truth is, if you are looking to make your woman extremely happy when it comes to sex*, you need to take your time, and make sure you warm her up before diving in.
How to please your woman and ensure she has a fantastic time in bed

Giving a woman a mind-blowing orgasm*—whether you are in a loving relationship or not—is not only great for her, but is going to make you feel pretty pleased with yourself. Give these awesome tricks a try to make foreplay and se*x a fantastic experience for you both. [Read:
#1 Take your time. Start off slowly—and we mean really slowly. Gently stroke her legs, right from the tips of her toes all the way up her thighs, kiss her legs, and, if you are brave, *and provided she is not super ticklish, of course* slowly suck her toes to leave her writhing in ecstasy and begging you for more.
#2 Ask her what she likes. No two women are the same, and communication is key to great sex*. Asking her what she likes, and what she wants you to do to her, is the easiest way of knowing where her pleasure zones are.
Be specific. Does she like you touching her lightly, or hard? Does she want you to go fast or slow? Make sure you are listening to what she is saying and make sure you make her feel comfortable enough to speak up, whether you do it before you start or in the moment.
Similarly, you can find out what her no-go areas are—for example, some women might love you pulling their hair, while others may find this painful and slightly aggressive—so make sure you find out before you do it.
Women appreciate a guy who cares about her pleasure during sex*, so even if she might be shy, encouraging her to let you know is sure to go down well.
#3 Let her know how much you love turning her on. If she feels like you are just going through the motions during foreplay, and are bored or simply doing it as a favor before the main event, it isn’t going to work.
She wants to feel as though you are enjoying it and getting into it, too, so make sure she knows how much you are enjoying yourself. That way, she can relax and enjoy it, too.
#4 Slow and steady wins the race. OK, so most men know that by stimulating the clitoris, you are going to give your woman some serious pleasure. However, it’s a sensitive little thing and by touching, licking, rubbing, or nibbling it too forcefully, you are likely to cause your woman some discomfort. Not exactly what you are going for!
Start off gently and pay it attention for a minute or so before moving somewhere else. This will build up tension, and with it, you can increase the pressure, back off again, and repeat, until she is crying out for you to keep going.
#5 Use the figure-eight trick. If you are giving her oral se*x, the best way to drive her wild is by tracing your tongue in a figure eight around her clit. Alternate this with increasingly firmer licks, stimulating the clitoris itself. If you consistently vary the pressure and motion, it will drive her wild, for sure.
#6 Don’t neglect the less obvious erogenous zones. Some guys think by focusing on the vagina, they are working their magic. However, there are plenty of other ways to get your woman super turned on, and these should not be ignored.
Kissing her neck, nibbling her earlobes, and gently caressing, stroking, and nibbling on her nipples are all areas which will make her totally horny, so make sure you pay attention to these, too!
#7 Experiment with different positions. Many women find it difficult to achieve orgasm through penetrative sex* alone… but that doesn’t mean it is impossible.
Have fun with s*ex and try out loads of different positions. Penetrate her at different angles, take it slow, and ask her what feels good. You can also use your hands during intercourse to stimulate her clitoris to help her get there.
#8 Make it last. While it is actually a myth that girls long for hour-long se*x sessions each time, *they’ve got stuff to be getting on with, too, you know* you also don’t want to be winning races for your speed in the sack.
If you are worried about getting off too early, make sure you focus on how you feel before you are about to orgasm, and not right at the last minute, when there is pretty much nothing in the world that can stop you!
When you start feeling those more subtle sensations, slow it down, or switch positions to make sure you last a bit longer.
#9 Don’t forget the simple stuff. Many sexual encounters start off with a kiss, but 10 minutes later and all that mushy stuff is forgotten as you get down to it.
Women actually respond really well to great kissing. Intense, passionate kisses will make her feel more connected to you, so make sure you remember to keep it up throughout.
#10 Compliments, compliments. Make sure you give a girl compliments. You will see a dramatic change in how much she enjoys se*x.
Ladies need reassurance in the sack as much as the rest of us, so not only do you need to tell her how good she looks and how much she turns you on, you also need to let her know how great it is when she initiates se*x or goes to town on you.
Afterward, tell her how good she is in bed, or what she did that was awesome; knowing this will boost her confidence and make her feel more relaxed and willing to try new things next time. :
#11 Take her out. If you want to really get your woman in the mood, then you’ve got to treat her right! You can’t just wander into the living room when she’s halfway through an episode of Girls and expect her to come running. Show her how much you care by wining and dining her, and she is sure to show her appreciation later.
#12 Toys, por*n, and talking dirty. If you think that you and your lady are in a bit of a sexual rut, why not introduce some fun, new elements into the bedroom?
There is a huge range of sexual aids available nowadays, so why not talk about what you both might like? You don’t have to turn all Dorian Grey on her straightaway, but discussing what you want to try and shopping together can be a turn on in and of itself.

-Bigtriceonline.com

9 things that can break a condom during sex

 Have you ever had a condom break on you during sex? It’s terrifying. The good news is that it is avoidable in the future, as long as you learned why it happened. Condom bursting, tearing, breaking, ripping can because by a number of things...

 

Sometimes, condom fail to give the protection they are worn for – mostly due to the fault of the user.

Most often than not, it is as a result of improper use (wearing) of the condom and , like Wha’anda has severally said, a condom is 98% effective if used well and 0% effective if wrongly used.

It can be terrifying sometimes to find that the condom you are wearing is broken and your sexual safety has been compromised, with possible pregnancy and/or s exually transmitted diseases (STDs).

 

Have you ever had a condom break on you? It’s terrifying. The good news is that it is avoidable in the future, as long as you learned why it happened.

Condom bursting, tearing, breaking, ripping can because by a number of things:

1. Expired/wrongly stored – an expired condom or one that was stored in extreme temperatures, left in wallets and places where pressure is applied to it. It weakens and might tear
2. Air bubble in the condom – if you allow air bubble to remain when wearing the condom, you might have a pressure point that will lead to a tear when thrusting
3. Too tight – if the condom is too tight, it could tear during sex
4. Not lubricated – the condom’s material became dry and hot because not enough additional lubricant was added;
5. Oil-based lube – if you use improvised oil-based lubricant like Vaseline or other petroleum jelly, you could weaken the condom  leading to a leak/tear
6. Wrongly opened – if you opened condom with your teeth, scissors, or a knife you can compromise the integrity and rip it. when you attempt s ex, it is likely to tear further
7. Hairy vaginal/Penis area – during s ex involving hairy pubic region, there is the possibility that hair strands are pushed in and the continuous friction can tear the condom
8. Newly shaved vagina – hair on a newly shaved vagina is prickly and sharp. It can tear the condom at the slightest contact
9. Lack of space at the tip of a condom – when wearing a condom, you need to leave a little space at the tip. If this is not done, it could tear, especially during ejaculation.
    
   -bigtriceonline.com

Identical twins who share a boyfriend vow to get pregnant at the same time

Identical twins who share everything including a boyfriend say they want to fall pregnant at the same time.
Anna and Lucy DeCinque, 30, from Perth, follow identical diets and exercise routines and have spent nearly $250,000 (£177,000) on cosmetic enhancements – including breast implants and fake eyebrows – to look more alike.

They even have the same boyfriend – 32-year-old electrical mechanic Ben Byrne – and plan to fall pregnant at the same time because their ‘bodies need to be the same.’
‘We would have to be exactly the same – even if we went through IVF at the same time,’ they told news.com.au

The pair appeared on SBS’s Insight to discuss identical twins and they changes they undergo as they age.
Though identical twins share 99.9 per cent of genetic information, Anna and Lucy make their own efforts to be as similar as possible.
‘If she walks a few metres, I need to walk a few metres because we have to burn the same calories,’ Lucy said.
‘Our diet is identical. Our food has to be identical. The same glass of water we measure. The same size of chip packets we have to measure.’

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How to be a nice boyfriend

Being a nice boyfriend begins with being a nice person. If you're a nice person who treats people well, you're probably a nice boyfriend. If you're not, then you shouldn't be anyone's boyfriend until you've mastered this key life skill.
 
You need to be more than just nice in your relationship, though. You need to make sure your girlfriend never feels like she's taken for granted.

Thoughtfulness -- thinking of other people first -- will make you a nice person and a nice boyfriend.

Be honest: Act like yourself. If there are parts of your personality that you think she will find distasteful, don't shield her from them.

This is because your girlfriend will sense that you are hiding parts of yourself from her and will become less attracted to you because of it.

Be humble. Let her know that your are working on improving in some areas.

Surprise her with romantic gestures: Not necessarily the traditional red roses or massive stuffed animals, but gifts and surprises that clearly show you think she's special and you know what she likes.

A sweet note or unexpectedly making her dinner will go a long way to remind your girlfriend that she has a nice boyfriend.

Listen to her: When you ask your girlfriend how her day has been, listen to what she says rather than just tuning out. Let her know that her thoughts matter to you.

Give your girlfriend space: Texting her nonstop and insisting on knowing her whereabouts at all times will make her grow tired of you.

Let her come to you sometimes and don't worry if you haven't heard from her in a few hours. Trust her.

Act nicely to everyone: This means not having a temper tantrum when your waiter brings the wrong order, not starting fights when you're out at night and generally being a pleasant person to be around.

Show her you respect others and value how you communicate with them.

Remember important dates: Never forget your girlfriend's birthday, the various anniversaries of your relationship or any dates that are important to her.

Remember the date of her big test or performance review at work and her parents' anniversary. Write them down on your calendar and don't forget to let her know you remembered first thing on that day.

Make reservations well in advance or buy tickets to a concert or show you know she'll want to see.

Understand that she'll have bad days: Everyone has moods, disappointments and setbacks. Don't let hers make any difference in your thoughtful treatment of her.

Let your girlfriend know she doesn't always have to be "on" with you and that you care about how she feels.

Do things your girlfriend wants to do even if you don't: Let her pick the movie at least half of the time. Visit her family, wash the dishes and try that new food she's into.

Never speak badly about your girlfriend to your friends or anyone else: Even if you're angry, tired, having a bad week or annoyed with her, keep your business between the two of you.

At the same time, never miss a chance to say something nice about her to others.


Source: Sam Gover

5 Ways to save money when you’re broke

5 Ways to save money when you’re broke 

  It can be hard to save money at any time, but it is particularly difficult when you feel like you are broke. If you can barely afford your bills and you are living paycheck to paycheck, saving money is probably one of the last things on your mind. However, you can still save money when you’re broke . In fact saving money, even if it is a little, is a key step to stop being broke.

As long as you are making some money, you should be saving some. Especially if you routinely have insufficient funds, it’s important to make a habit of saving money. Despite the fact that you have little extra funds, there are ways to save. Cutting costs, sticking to a budget, and saving a little at a time are all ways that you can save money, but there are other ways as well. Here are five ideas to consider.

1. Cut out the extras

An easy way to save money when you’re broke is to cut costs. You may think there is nothing you can cut out at first, but think a little harder. If you are truly “broke” then you need to let some things go. Do you really need such an expensive cell phone plan? What about cable television? Can you use the internet at the library or use WiFi instead of paying a monthly fee? There are many things that we considered necessities that are really just extras, and cutting some of those will quickly free up more money. Take a look at your monthly bills, and decide what is really necessary. If you want to stop being broke, you may have to cut out some of the extras for a while.

You also might need to evaluate your spending habits. Simply choosing the generic brand of food more often, or shopping deals and using coupons can quickly save you money. You may have to cut out your preference for name brand items in order to save big.

2. Eat at home

Grabbing lunch on the go is so much easier and more convenient than bringing a lunch to work, but doing this regularly will really eat away at your income. According to Living on A Dime, eating out is a common way people get into personal debt. It’s easy to rationalize eating out because you are too busy to cook, or you are a poor cook. However, making food at home will truly save you money, and if you want to save money, you need to make the time and the effort to cook at home.

You can save time by making several meals over the weekend and freezing them to use during the workweek. If you simply don’t know how to cook, buy a cookbook for beginners.

3. Make a budget

If you don’t have a budget, your first step should be to make one. Perhaps you already have a budget, but there are several reasons a budget can fail. If you recently lost your job, or your income somehow changed but you are using the same budget, you will need to make a new one. You also may need to look at your budget and see if it is really reasonable and if you need to adjust anything.

According to Lifehacker, if you are broke and budgeting, there are several steps that can help. Start by assessing your financial situation, cut back on expenses (as mentioned in point one), be frugal. There are other steps you can also take, including paying down your debt.

4. Save a little at a time

If you’re completely broke, the idea of saving anything probably seems unreasonable. However, you have to get into the habit of saving if you are going to save more in the long run. It’s important to think about the future: write down your financial goals, even if they seem completely out of reach. Then, start saving. If you are saving nothing right now, then any savings is an improvement. Once you cut your extras and start following a budget, you can use some of the discretionary money to save for your future.

Another idea is to get a second job. Even if you only work a few extra hours each week, but you put all the money in a savings account, you will quickly see a change in your financial situation.

5. Avoid common mistakes

You can make plenty of good decisions about your finances, but if you make a few poor decisions, you will still have a hard time saving. Some of the worst things to do when you are broke include splurging when you get money, prioritizing convenience, taking on too much debt or making poor decisions about debt, living beyond your means, and having no savings at all.

It’s really easy to live above your means, but this is one of the easiest ways to get into debt. If you have a hard time controlling your spending, try setting a budget and then doing envelope budgeting (you can modernize this practice with a few steps). Also, be careful about the debt that you incur. You need to avoid the worst financial mistakes if you really want to save.

Saving money isn’t easy, but if you take the time to put these five steps into practice, you will be off to a good start.